Betrothy

About this project

Love is closer than it looks. You have a network strong enough to find a partner, and Betrothy helps you start building that now. Whether you are single, exploring a relationship, or married, Betrothy is for you.

If you are single

Meet someone.

Betrothy helps you meet someone who is not a stranger from a swipe, but someone from your network, or someone cool and like-minded. Betrothy puts your network to work for you.

• Your network. See who your friends know, and how close each person is to you.
• Blind dates. Voice-only dates are paired on the night, and students have their own.
• Events. Mixers, game nights and nights out are hosted by people on Betrothy.
• Betrothals. Introduce two people you know, or let a friend introduce you.

If you are exploring a relationship

Build it together.

The early days are for finding out who you are to each other. Betrothy gives the two of you somewhere to do that.

• A question a day. Decision Formation asks you both one written question each day, and shows you how you each think.
• A page for the two of you. Your couple page holds your story and what you are up to, for the people who know you.
• Surprises for the two of you. Betrothy picks ideas and activities for you and your partner, so there is always something new waiting.
• A song of your own. Pick a genre or describe a mood, then type or sing your idea. The studio writes the lyrics, records the vocal, and designs the cover art into a finished song.
• Plans. Plan nights out and trips away, from the events people host to the ones you make yourselves.

For students

Busy semester? Meeting people shouldn't be.

Sign up with your student email and Betrothy shows you other students. Blind dates and events fit between classes, with no swiping.

How Betrothy works

It works through the people you know.

Friends, churches, schools and workplaces each hold a network of people who know one another. Betrothy draws on those networks and makes it straightforward to connect through them.

• Friends. Your friends, and their friends in turn, already know one another and one another's families. You reach the people they know.
• Churches and schools. A congregation or a school shares a place, a routine and years of acquaintance. You meet others inside a community you already belong to.
• Workplaces and events. Colleagues, former colleagues and collaborators form a network, and events bring that network together, open to a city or to an invited group.

Our model

Love is socially mediated.

A Stanford study of how American couples meet tracked every path to a partner since 1940. For most of that time the leading paths ran through people a person already knew. In 1995, 33 percent of couples had met through friends, 15 percent through family and 19 percent through work. Two percent had met online.

By 2017, 39 percent of new couples had met online. Meeting through friends had fallen to 20 percent, through family to 7 and through work to 11. Yet for all the ease of meeting online, friends kept a significant hold, and stayed the second most common way new couples met. Friends still introduce one couple in five.

Betrothy leverages the online experience to scale the role that friends, churches, schools and workplaces play in mediating love, bringing love to everyone.

Source: Rosenfeld, Thomas and Hausen, How Couples Meet and Stay Together, Stanford, 2019.

Current happening

People already do this.

The Wall Street Journal reported in August 2026 that people tired of dating applications are meeting through LinkedIn, although its rules forbid romantic advances. In a survey by Zety, about one in four professionals said using LinkedIn to meet a partner is acceptable, and 22 percent said they had reached out to someone there, or replied to someone, with romantic intent. What LinkedIn offered that dating applications did not was a real name, a clear photograph, a record of education and work, and colleagues in common who could be asked about a person before replying.

LinkedIn is not designed for this. Betrothy is. People already prefer to meet through the people and places they know, even on a network that discourages it, and Betrothy takes that as its starting point. Every person a member finds is shown with the connections they share and how far apart they are in the network. A school, a congregation or a workplace in common is the link between two people.

Source: Celia Bernhardt, "LinkedIn has accidentally become a dating site, despite its no-romance rules," The Wall Street Journal, 21 August 2026.

My role

I founded Betrothy and build it end to end: the product, the network that ties singles and couples into one community, the AI tooling, and the brand, from the hand-drawn wordmark to the wine, cream and gold system. It runs on the web and as native iOS and Mac apps. My UC Berkeley capstone on AI in dating is the research behind it.